Finding love after 50

If I can do it, truly anyone can

Paul and me at our wedding in April

Listen, this post is not for everyone. I know that. A lot of you are single at this stage in the game and thrilled to be. Some of you have told me that after your divorces, you deprioritized dating, or at least dating with a goal of anything committed. Some of you elect to make friends with benefits, and some of you are just kind of over sex. Many of you are happy to get everything you need from your friends and family. A serious relationship is the last thing a lot of you want.

For ages before I met my now-husband, I wanted a serious relationship. I wanted a partner. I also had not, historically, been especially lucky in love. But I stuck with dating, even on the apps, and I eventually met somebody great, and it worked out. I know I am a cis-white woman who has pretty much only dated men, so I might not speak to your experience. But here’s the best intelligence I gathered in my 15 or so years of post-divorce, mostly digital, dating.